Are you building walls saying NO? Ready for YES?

  Are your thoughts creating wall and barriers preventing you from experiencing more of life? Mine were! Does this sound like you? A friend calls you up or texts with a suggestion to go out for lunch. You pause! Your mind is frantically searching for the right answer. Should I go, shouldn’t I? If I don’t go what excuse can I use? I have so much to do right now. I don’t know! I have to pick up the kids? The litany goes on. I know this all too well. I went for a period when I built walls around myself and fended off almost all invitations, making up all sorts of reasons why I didn’t want to or I couldn’t. Often after I turned down an invitation I would spend hours thinking that maybe I was missing out, maybe I should have gone, why didn’t I say yes. Ah, the thought games we play! When I realized I sitting home alone far too often and was receiving fewer and fewer invitations even to me my excuses sounded lame. I decided ENOUGH. I saw that it was only my thoughts … [Read more...]

Stop the runaway train and take time for yourself.

In the last couple of weeks, I’ve spoken to several people who are going through a time that is especially hectic, challenging or demanding. As a result, they’re emotionally and physically just DONE—yet finding themselves needing to dig down a bit deeper to find a bit more energy, compassion or patience for whatever life has brought. It can often feel that life resembles a runaway train with no brakes. Just rushing on at amazing speed with no ability to stop. But stop you must if want to be at your peak with clear thoughts, energy and creativity. If you keep going at the speed of a runaway train you’re bound to crash. The stress of keeping up this pace will eventually show it’s self in some form of health issues. Stress is the #1 factor behind most illnesses today. When you run out of fuel and come crashing down, who are you really helping? Have you ever been on an airplane? As the flight attendant goes through the safety talk you’re reminded to “Put your own oxygen … [Read more...]

Is this my dream?

You sit, hands clasped around a cup tea, staring out the window and wonder what happened. Is this really your dream life? You went to college, landed a great job, got married, had kids, have all the outer trappings of material success, BUT feel empty. You did what your family and society expected of you. You did what everyone else was doing. Was it right or wrong? Neither, it just was. You made those choices based on who you were and what you knew at that moment. They were the best decisions for that time. Now you are living this dream. There was a time, I too sat starring out the window wondering if this was all life had to offer. Then I became aware that my life was my dream, my choice and it had been perfect for me. Mine dream included university, a short marriage, no kids, a 25 year career as an educator, a life of constant change and movement, no permanent fix address and sense of adventure that leads me on. This was my dream and it was/is right for me. The … [Read more...]