At times everyone is gripped by a some level of fear.
You know that tightening of the stomach, the inner dread, the tensing of the body, the sweaty hands or the extreme case of ‘which way do I run’.
Fear can be overpowering and debilitating.
So, what is fear?
First, there is the real fear of personal safety. This is our natural built in fight or flight response. A healthy thing to have in extreme cases where your personal safety is in jeopardy. In these rare cases, thinking stops and your natural inner wisdom kicks in to guide you. You might not agree with me. However from the safety of this moment, most people think they know what they will do but, I can attest from personal experience you will do the unexpected.
But what about all the fears that are built around the “what if” story? You know, the story that begins with: “What if I don’t know what to say? What if I make the wrong decision? What if it snows? What if she doesn’t like it? What if I fail?”
I bet you can come up with your own list of “what if’s”.
This kind of fear is only a thought. It has no form, it has no substance, it’s nothing but the creation of our own thinking.
Most fears arise from the unknown. They are aimed some future event that may or may not ever happen. They are fears based on shadows created through thinking. We are create a story through thinking and then believe it. Once we believe this thinking our body, which doesn’t know the difference between real physical fear or a thought created story, reacts by going into fight or flight mode, hence the physical sensations.
The result of these stories are stress, staying stuck in repeated patterns, and an inability to move forward.
But there is a way out!
Every time you notice yourself caught up in a “what if” story, pause, take a deep breathe and then ask yourself where is the fear.
As you begin to notice your ‘what if’ stories, you may also notice that you are less stressed and are able to take steps towards a different way of being.
Don’t get upset or beat yourself up if these stories keep popping up. That is normal. I know that if you keep watching the stories they will disappear all by themselves. You don’t have to do anything other than pay attention one step at a time.
If you are ready to go deeper into an understanding of the 3 Principles check out my one-to-one mentoring, join my monthly talks (Edmonton), come to a full-day workshop or book me for a full-day workshop.
Until next time,
Be in Joy one step at a time,