You sit, hands clasped around a cup tea, staring out the window and wonder what happened. Is this really your dream life?
You went to college, landed a great job, got married, had kids, have all the outer trappings of material success, BUT feel empty.
You did what your family and society expected of you. You did what everyone else was doing. Was it right or wrong? Neither, it just was.
You made those choices based on who you were and what you knew at that moment. They were the best decisions for that time.
Now you are living this dream.
There was a time, I too sat starring out the window wondering if this was all life had to offer. Then I became aware that my life was my dream, my choice and it had been perfect for me.
Mine dream included university, a short marriage, no kids, a 25 year career as an educator, a life of constant change and movement, no permanent fix address and sense of adventure that leads me on. This was my dream and it was/is right for me.
The choices I made gave me some fantastic experiences from which to grow. Once I realized that, it became clear that going forward I had the opportunity to make new choices thus new dreams.
I looked around and noticed other people’s dreams. Looking at them I realized I couldn’t live their dreams, as they probably couldn’t live mine.
So, as you sit there sipping your tea and looking out the window, reflect on your life choices up to now. Look at how they are a reflection of the authentic you. Note all the ways they helped you to grow and arrive at this moment in your life.
Take a look around and if the dream that you have create up to this moment doesn’t quite fit any more, it might be time to choose something different.
What is the one thing you could easily change to begin the journey to a new life, a new dream? Take some small steps, feel them out, if it feels right keep moving, question any resistance that comes up – what is it about?
BE gentle with yourself and remember to celebrate any action you take toward your new dream.
Life is your dream and change is only one thought away. Only you can change the thought and take the steps.
What is your new dream and where will it lead?