A Modern Gypsy

How does one know they are a gypsy?old-retro-antique-vintage-163136-medium

In my case it consisted of 5 elements.

The first was being born into family that already has its share of misfits, mystics, and psychics. My maternal grandmother was a midwife, tea leaf reader, and herbalist. My paternal grandmother was a garden diva who’s life revolved around the cycles of the Moon and the seasons. Both grandmothers were psychics.

Added to this generational milieu, was my love of travelling, my secret desire was to be a hippie, the pull of wild gypsy music, and books that took me to foreign countries.

Which brings me to element number two.

I was 16 lazing around in the backyard on a sunny summer day when I heard a voice. Yes, a voice!

This voice stated very precisely, “You were going to live and work overseas.”

As strange as it may seem, those words resonated with me and I had no doubt that they would happen.

In the ensuing years I based many decisions on this voice. For example, my career choice to become a teacher and the subjects I studied.

And although life took me down a few paths that appeared incongruent with the message of this voice, it continued to whisper to me.

An example of this, was urging my husband to pursue an overseas post with his company. Needless to say, he didn’t have the same inner pull that I had.

This became evident when divine intervention, the third element, changed our plans and thus the course of my life.

After much persuading my husband agreed to a holiday in Europe. Four of us planned a summer in Spain but destiny had different plans. For a reason I can no longer remember, that plan was cancelled and instead we headed to Greece.

From the moment I stepped out of plane in Greece and saw Mt Olympus I began to change. The pull of the voice became a magnet which culminated one day on a beach in southern Crete.

I looked over at my husband and said, “I don’t want to go home.” He replied, “You can stay. You have another month of holiday, but I have to go back.”

I looked over at my two friends but they both had solid reasons for returning to Canada.

I left the group and waded into the water looking south. Wouldn’t you know it – there was the voice. This time it said, “Africa is over there. You will be there one day.” Once more I knew this was truth.

As we boarded the plane for home I vowed to Mt Olympus that I would return. The person who made this vow was very different from the one who greeted the mountain a month previous.

In Canada, I not longer fit into the world I had left and a 2 year battle began to raged within me. My spirit urged me on while my sense of duty and guilt tore at me.

Finally, I knew which path I had to take.

Stepping away from my marriage, security, and in some cases friends and family, was element 4. This was the step toward my vision. For the next couple of years, I was lead by an amazing series of synchroncities, one which opened the door to opportunity.

The opportunity was a chance conversation where I heard about CUSO at the U of A. How come I hadn’t heard about CUSO before?

From the moment I entered the CUSO office I knew I was in the right place. Here I was surrounded by friendly people sharing their stories of living in exotic countries.

I wasted no time. I signed up and then waited for my posting.

The voice from Crete whispered Africa but the CUSO staff felt it would be Asia. To be honest, I didn’t really care.

So, where did I go?

Six months later I found my self on a plane heading south to Nigeria, Africa. As I sat on the plane I knew without a doubt that there was a force much greater than myself sitting in the driver’s seat.

The final element in the making of this gypsy came on the day I moved into my new home.

With great ceremony Mrs. Scobie, the headmistress, drove the short distance to the house. She was so proud of it. On the outside a nice bungalow with an attached garage.

On the inside rickety furniture, curled and missing floor tiles, a seatless toilet, sink and tub but no water, a kitchen that consisted of a small stove and couple wooden boards for shelves, and 3 bedrooms with beds I wasn’t sure I wanted to sleep on.

Then there was the dust, cobwebs complete with spiders, termites in the door frames and more interesting creatures to be discovered later.

After Mrs. Scobie left I wandered from room to room and I all I could think of was, “What the hell have I done?” I sat in the living room and began to cry.

Right on cue there was the voice. “You have a choice go home or stay. It’s up to you.” I paused. I stopped crying. In popped the voice, “You wanted this.”

Yes, I did!
I was going to stay, make the most of it and have fun.

This was the final element in the making of a gypsy.

I choose this path, listened to my inner voice, followed where it led, took action, and made a decision to make the most of it.

This had taken me to 80 countries on all but one continent.
I have made the world my home.

My motto was and is: Where I am – there is home.

How I brought the world to me!

world coming to meHave you ever looked back on your life and marvelled at the synchronicity that took place prior to certain events or achieving something you really wanted?

This is exactly what happened to me in the 90s after I had read the book Celestine Prophecy. After I finish the book I realized that so much of my life up to that point has been led by synchronicity. It was as if I was being led to a certain destiny.

When I looked back on the events in my life I saw clearly how the little decisions and actions I took came together like building blocks to guide me in a certain direction. It was almost like there were invisible roadsigns along the way to keep me on track. I can recall my sense of wonder at how it all fit together so perfectly.

Even though I saw the magic of it, and became more aware of synchronicity in my life, I never really gave it any deeper thought. I was still trying to control some of the events and direction of my life. I hadn’t completely taken my hands off the steering wheel.

Over the years I have been taking my hands off the steering wheel more and more. At times I’m very successful and other times not.

This became very clear to me while I was working on a project with my mentor. In our discussion of having a clear vision and keeping it in the forefront as a guide to where we are going but without having to know how we were going to get there, I was taken back to that moment in the 90’s. I saw how my clear vision of living overseas opened up the way for Divine Intelligence to place opportunities, people, and circumstances directly in front of me. I also saw how I acted upon these intuitions or chance conversations.

What I was seeing now with absolute clarity is that something much greater than my thinking self was orchestrating the events of my life. As I looked back I realized that many of these synchronistic events were beyond my awareness at that particular time. Opportunities would shown up or seemingly casual conversation would take place that I couldn’t have conjured up if I tried. From these situations I took action on what was presented or mentioned and doors opened for me.

One example that comes to mind is when I mentioned to someone in one in class that I wanted to work overseas but I didn’t know how to go about it. He casually mentioned, “ Why don’t you check out CUSO?”. The next day I went to university found the CUSO office and made an appointment for an interview. A few months later I found myself sitting in Nigeria.

I didn’t even know where Nigeria was before then.

What was becoming very clear with this insight is that these were not some chance happenings. These events and meetings were orchestrated by a much greater force than I could have imagined. What came to me was that synchronicity was really Divine Intelligence unfolding the infinite field of possibilities to match the dream that I had. With hindsight, I know all I did was follow the path that this great power laid out for me.

I held a dream without any idea of how it was going to unfold, was attune to the invisible signposts along the way, and as a result I brought the world to me.

This was a very humbling moment in which I saw when I let go of the how and trust in this greater power anything is possible.

Every single person on this planet has this connection to the infinite field possibilities through the Divine Intelligence within.

If I can find it, so can you.

Is this my dream?

You sit, hands clasped around a cup tea, staring out the window and wonder what happened. Is this really your dream life?

You went to college, landed a great job, got married, had kids, have all the outer trappings of material success, BUT feel empty.

You did what your family and society expected of you. You did what everyone else was doing. Was it right or wrong? Neither, it just was.

You made those choices based on who you were and what you knew at that moment. They were the best decisions for that time.

Now you are living this dream.

There was a time, I too sat starring out the window wondering if this was all life had to offer. Then I became aware that my life was my dream, my choice and it had been perfect for me.

Mine dream included university, a short marriage, no kids, a 25 year career as an educator, a life of constant change and movement, no permanent fix address and sense of adventure that leads me on. This was my dream and it was/is right for me.

The choices I made gave me some fantastic experiences from which to grow. Once I realized that, it became clear that going forward I had the opportunity to make new choices thus new dreams.

I looked around and noticed other people’s dreams. Looking at them I realized I couldn’t live their dreams, as they probably couldn’t live mine.

So, as you sit there sipping your tea and looking out the window, reflect on your life choices up to now. Look at how they are a reflection of the authentic you. Note all the ways they helped you to grow and arrive at this moment in your life.

Take a look around and if the dream that you have create up to this moment doesn’t quite fit any more, it might be time to choose something different.

What is the one thing you could easily change to begin the journey to a new life, a new dream? Take some small steps, feel them out, if it feels right keep moving, question any resistance that comes up – what is it about?

BE gentle with yourself and remember to celebrate any action you take toward your new dream.

Life is your dream and change is only one thought away. Only you can change the thought and take the steps.

What is your new dream and where will it lead?