Home Away From Home

I long, as does every human being, to be at home wherever I find myself.  ~ Maya Angelou

 

Last weekend when I was driving toward my vacation condo, I had a flash of insight about the concept of home.home

The first flash was a reflection of all the places I have called home: a luxury apartment, a run down farm house, a townhouse, a spacious 3 bedroom bungalow, a room in a guest house, a trailer, to name a few.

Following came the realization that I felt completely at home and at peace in each of these places. I would enter, have a look around and make it home. Then when it was time to move on I did so without pulling on the strings of attachment. These places where mine to use for a while before something else came along.

In this moment, I truly understood the saying that home is where the heart is. Because I was at peace and comfortable with myself, the building I was living in didn’t matter. I would bring my peace and contentment into each structure. I didn’t let my thinking get tied up in judgements.

As look around I see many people attached to the building they call home. But a home is never the building, it is the energy that comes from those who reside there.

Too often there is a mistaken belief that a house or a building is a home. This house comes with all sorts of attachments and strings that tug and pull until it possess the owner. The owner ties their identity with the building.

There is nothing wrong with having a lovely dwelling. It is our thinking about the dwelling that is the problem. The building is only a form that our thinking transforms into something greater or lesser. Without this thinking any dwelling becomes a home and one is free to stay and enjoy then let go when it’s time to move on.

There is so much freedom when we can put judgements aside and enjoy what is before us.

How do your thoughts affect your perception of home?

Unleash your thoughts!

What if you stopped trying to control your thoughts?

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You know those thoughts like: “I shouldn’t be thinking that, it’s not nice, or positive or spiritual, or healthy or whatever.”
I think you get the idea.

Somewhere along life’s path, the belief that some thoughts are good/positive/desirable and others are bad/negative/undesirable took hold.

As a result you expend a huge amount of energy trying to have only positive thoughts. Then we exert even more energy beating ourselves up for those unfavourable thoughts that creep in.

Looks like a battle you’re never going to win.

What if you could unleash all your thoughts in the same way that you unleash your dog in the off-leash park? As soon as your dog is unleashed it bolts for joy. What about you, if you unleashed your thoughts could you be totally comfortable with all of them?

Or does the fear that they will run amuck keep you from taking that chance?

I was afraid of unleashing my thoughts. I believed that if I allowed my thoughts free rein I would get myself into all sort of trouble. I also strongly believed that I had to control them.

I spent a great amount of energy ignoring negative thoughts, pushing them away, trying to twist them into positive forms or looking for other ways to fix them. None of these methods worked! They just kept coming back.

As I watched my thoughts I discovered a Universal truth about thoughts, by themselves are neutral! It is only what we put into the thought, our labels and judgement, that give a thought its value.

I choose what I think. I choose what I add to a thought to give it value.

This choice was my power. I can choose to give a thought meaning by adding labels, conditions, and judgements, OR I could add praise, encouragement and kindness, OR I could choose to watch them float by without any involvement from me. It is very powerful to know that I can choose the world in which I want to live.

So, perhaps what you are afraid of isn’t that your thoughts will run amuck, but the fear of unleashing your innate power to create though choice.

Something to reflect upon from Sydney Banks: “Thought is not reality; yet it is through Thought that our realities are created.”

Therein lies your power and your freedom.