I was a Serial Experience Junkie!
For more years than I care to count, I bounced from new experience to new experience. In my case, you could also add job to job, country to country, relationship to relationship.
I loved the challenge and adventure that came with new situations. In a way it was like a reality game. Move to a new country, master a new job, meet new people, figure out how things worked then when it became routine, head off to a new adventure in a new place.
For several years, my life span in any one location was 2 years. The first year everything was great – a challenge, but by year two I was looking for the next fix.
To begin with, I loved all the new experiences and gained some amazing insights, but slowly I came to realize that if I wasn’t happy in this place what were the chances of me being happy in another place.
Initially, I came up with great excuses: the school had problems, administrator was bad, country had too many issues, it just wasn’t right for me, I could do better. My thinking could come up with the most convincing reasons why I should move.
Finally, I began to pay close attention to the pattern my movements. What was it that triggered me to begin looking for another experience fix? What was missing in this particular place?
The answer was clear ~ nothing. It was me! Or perhaps more exact, it was my thinking about my unhappiness! My thoughts about a place or situation were a reflection of the unhappiness with myself.
Ultimately, I was responsible for my happiness. No place, no external experiences, no amount of new friends or things would bring me happiness, it had to come from me.
This insight changed my life. I slowed down and kept my focus on the here and now rather than casting my thoughts into the future. Each time I wanted to bolt off in a new direction, I would pause and look at where this thought was coming from. Was it an external reaction or did this come from my inner wisdom?
It didn’t take me long to notice the different feeling between a knee jerk reaction and my inner voice or wisdom. Knowing this difference has changed my life.
My life is much more peaceful, happy and content. When I do take off on a new adventure it comes from a deep desire and not a means of escape.
Can you relate to this? Are you constantly on the move looking for new experiences and wondering why you can’t find them? It could be that your thinking is keeping you distracted from the inner source of this discontentment. Are you ready to make the shift from an outer focus to an inner one?
A good place to start is with my ebook: Finding Innate Joy or No More Chasing Butterflies.