Stop the runaway train and take time for yourself.

In the last couple of weeks, I’ve spoken to several people who are going through a time that is especially hectic, challenging or demanding.

As a result, they’re emotionally and physically just DONE—yet finding themselves needing to dig down a bit deeper to find a bit more energy, compassion or patience for whatever life has brought.

It can often feel that life resembles a runaway train with no brakes. Just rushing on at amazing speed with no ability to stop.

But stop you must if want to be at your peak with clear thoughts, energy and creativity.

If you keep going at the speed of a runaway train you’re bound to crash. The stress of keeping up this pace will eventually show it’s self in some form of health issues. Stress is the #1 factor behind most illnesses today.

When you run out of fuel and come crashing down, who are you really helping?

Have you ever been on an airplane? As the flight attendant goes through the safety talk you’re reminded to “Put your own oxygen mask on first before helping your child or anyone else.” Why? If you aren’t safe how can you help another?

The same goes for you, getting sick only adds to the issues.

You might be thinking, “Yeah, sounds great but, where do I fit it in?” My answer would be, you plan it. If you don’t plan for some self-care time; it might be forced upon you.

 

What is self-care time?

Self-care is not selfish, it is the opposite. It is giving to yourself so that you can give to others.

It allows you time to reconnect with yourself and helps you to get your equilibrium back. It is a time to recharge your batteries, feed your spirit, and de-stress.

Having a plan to regain your equilibrium once a week is a wonderful gift for yourself.

Self-care is doing something that you love. Something that gets you to forget your to-do-list. Something you can get lost in.

It might be painting, drawing, walking, dancing, sewing, a martial arts practise. Anything that connects you to your authentic self. Where you transcend time and space for a while.

For me it is walking or sitting in Nature, anywhere! When life starts to speed up, I go for a walk by the river or in the park. In the winter when it is too cold to walk I attend a yoga class.

What is your self-care plan? How do you recharge and refuel your spirit?

If you don’t have one, could this be the moment to create one?

Is this my dream?

You sit, hands clasped around a cup tea, staring out the window and wonder what happened. Is this really your dream life?

You went to college, landed a great job, got married, had kids, have all the outer trappings of material success, BUT feel empty.

You did what your family and society expected of you. You did what everyone else was doing. Was it right or wrong? Neither, it just was.

You made those choices based on who you were and what you knew at that moment. They were the best decisions for that time.

Now you are living this dream.

There was a time, I too sat starring out the window wondering if this was all life had to offer. Then I became aware that my life was my dream, my choice and it had been perfect for me.

Mine dream included university, a short marriage, no kids, a 25 year career as an educator, a life of constant change and movement, no permanent fix address and sense of adventure that leads me on. This was my dream and it was/is right for me.

The choices I made gave me some fantastic experiences from which to grow. Once I realized that, it became clear that going forward I had the opportunity to make new choices thus new dreams.

I looked around and noticed other people’s dreams. Looking at them I realized I couldn’t live their dreams, as they probably couldn’t live mine.

So, as you sit there sipping your tea and looking out the window, reflect on your life choices up to now. Look at how they are a reflection of the authentic you. Note all the ways they helped you to grow and arrive at this moment in your life.

Take a look around and if the dream that you have create up to this moment doesn’t quite fit any more, it might be time to choose something different.

What is the one thing you could easily change to begin the journey to a new life, a new dream? Take some small steps, feel them out, if it feels right keep moving, question any resistance that comes up – what is it about?

BE gentle with yourself and remember to celebrate any action you take toward your new dream.

Life is your dream and change is only one thought away. Only you can change the thought and take the steps.

What is your new dream and where will it lead?